“You just know”

We all know of the famous “samoosa runs” that almost every 20+ female and male experiences. And for those who don’t know, a samoosa run is the meeting of two families and introducing of two people whom the family sees as a potential match for marriage.

It’s an interesting process, one that I myself always wanted to experience but thought I’d be “too cool” for that and find my own person. Once a girl is past 21, it seems as if everyone conspires to get her married or find her a potential spouse at least… it’s almost like the “shaadi network” emerges and you find out about aunties or uncles you’d never known previously who have guys in mind lined up just waiting to be introduced to you. 

For the past few years I’d always had some excuse or the other, not feeling completely ready or open to marriage (is anyone ever truly ready though?). It was only after my previously mentioned decision making process that I’d become open to this, placing my trust in my Lord.

It’s scary, intimidating, exciting, nerve wrecking and heart racing to think of meeting someone for the first time with the entire family present, speaking to them, being unsure of whether conversation would flow, knowing you’re meeting the man who could potentially be your life partner…

What do you say? How do you act? What if you do something wrong? Is he reading into everything you’re saying? How will he look? Will you be attracted to him? Will he find you attractive? Is he going to be tall enough???? What do you ask him? What’s he going to ask you? And the most important question of all… HOW DO YOU KNOW IF HE IS THE ONE? (And if you feel it, what if he doesn’t reciprocate that?!!)

All in all, it only sounds terrifying but once you’re in the situation, it all just flows. I’ve always had friends who’d gone through these experiences and said to me that once you’re there, once you meet someone and if they’re the one, you just know. You click in a way that’s unexplainable to anyone else and

“YOU. JUST. KNOW”

I never understood this until I myself had experienced it and the advice I’d give to any of you still going through this process or feeling unsure of whether you’re ready for this experience… GO FOR IT! You may not click with the first person, nor the next 5 but sure enough, he’s out there! Enjoy it! (Just pretend that you’re on episodes of the bachelorette LOL and enjoy your moment). 

It’s a beautiful process, one filled with barakah and khayr and I can assure you that this is one of the best ways to meet someone because anyone that comes through is going to be someone from a good family and trust me, your grandparents, parents, and uncles have all done a thorough background check before even allowing him to come through (and the background checks and digging continue until you’re married just to be sure).

Having a samoosa run allows you to meet someone you’d never otherwise have met and someone with stability whom you’re sure is ‘ready’ to take the next step. This person isn’t going to be someone who plays mind games or makes you wait years before considering marriage and you know that this person is always going to uphold the respect of his family and yours and always respect you as a person.

And how will you know? 

Well, your heart immediately connects with this person’s and their soul will feel somewhat familiar to you. You will fall in love with their mind and find yourself looking for them and thinking about them during that post-meeting waiting period. 

And very importantly… PRAY ISTIKHARAH and I promise you, you’ll find what you seek! Don’t just go for looks, make sure their mind and heart attracts you too!

Don’t be afraid. The love will only grow stronger over time. Trust the process and trust Allah❤️. 

All the best!

Love&Duas,

MudassiraFareed